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Grief and healing

Yesterday was my birthday and of course I was missing Mike. My friend, Barb, gave me a book (Streams in the Desert) with daily readings.

Here is an excerpt from today's reading:

"Weeping inconsolably beside a grave will never bring back the treasure of a lost loved one, nor can any blessing come from such great sadness. Sorrow causes deep scars, and indelibly writes its story on the suffering heart. We never completely recover from our greatest griefs and are never exactly the same after having passed through them. yet sorrow that is endured in the right spirit impacts our growth favorably and brings us a greater sense of compassion for others. Indeed, those who have no scars of sorrow or suffering upon them are poor. The joy set before us should shine on our griefs just as the sun shines through the clouds, making them radiant. God has ordained our truest and richest comfort to be found by pressing on toward the goal. Sitting down and brooding over our sorrow deepens the darkness surrounding us, allowing it to creep into our heart. And soon our strength has changed to weakness. But if we will turn from the gloom and remain faithful to the calling of God, the light will shine again and we will grow stronger."




That in itself is all too true Debbie! The thought that people who have no scars or haven't dealt with lives battles and thought of the rewards or blessings that happen from a situation that they or the people around them have suffered. I feel lost so many days or at times since Mike taught me so much in life, the few years we were together helped broaden my perspective on life and how to live it with a more open mind. I am so thankful to have gone through every moment of his cancer with not only him, but you, Tom, and Sara! Not to mention the rest of your family who helped up so much during those 2 yrs and 10 months of hardships. I am thankful to have gained knowlegde from Mike as well as from each of you! I cry more then I let it be known, but I ultimatley know Mike is happy with the choices I've made. He would be so proud of Me, Tyler, and the three of you dealing and working through your lives you all have been dealt and blessed with today! I am so grateful on my birthday to say to the world just how much you, Tom, and Sara mean to me!


We love you Ann. We are so proud of you - getting into nursing school with everything else you do! You are a caring, compassionate woman and we are glad you are part of our family!


Your Not ALONE

The boy's and I were talking about how hard Friday will be for all of you. We want you to know .... you are not alone. We think about Mike often and miss him lots. I was telling the boy's about the time I called Mike on April 1st and wished him a Happy Birthday! It was supposed to be an April Fool's joke... I know his birthday is the 2nd, but all he said was thank you... I thought it was funny, but I think he thought I was losing my mind. We Love You! Diane, Jim, Andrew & Matthew

October 2011

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